On one of the blogs I follow, Ryan blogged about who is in control, your characters or you, the author. The post was great, but the comments from various different authors and artists was just as inspirational. I didn’t want to just repost this, as you would loose the reply’s, so follow this link instead and see it in all it’s original glory.
http://ryanlanz.com/2014/09/20/when-your-characters-wont-behave/